Supporting our Children after a New Placement

Supporting our Children after a New Placement

by Ashley Bennett, Director of Trauma-Informed Care If you're reading this resource, you might be looking for ways to prepare your children to become a foster family. Or you might have already said YES and a new child's entrance into your family may have shaken the...

Now What?

Now What?

You've just welcomed a new child into your home! You're making appointments, enrolling them in school, adjusting your plans, and managing all the big feelings in your home (from the children and you!). What did you just do??   Can I normalize a few things for you...

Visit Days

Visit Days

 We all know birth family visits can bring out lots of big feelings for our kids. For some, there is happiness and anticipation. But for most, the experience is more conflicting. As foster parents, we most often see this in our kids’ behaviors in the hours leading up...

Holiday Tip #5: Practice Outside the Moment

Holiday Tip #5: Practice Outside the Moment

by Ashley Bennett, Director of Trauma-Informed Care We’ve talked a little bit in this space about making life predictable for our children and how important it is to communicate with them about the things they will experience-especially when new. You can take that...

Holiday Tip #4: Share Control

Holiday Tip #4: Share Control

by Ashley Bennett, Director of Trauma-Informed Care Do you have a child who sabotages big days? Or at least maybe it feels that way sometimes? There are many reasons why this might be. We’ve talked about a few of them so far: feelings of grief and loss, sensory...

Holiday Tip #3:  Predictability & Structure

Holiday Tip #3: Predictability & Structure

by Ashley Bennett, Director of Trauma-Informed Care Listen I know. It’s getting harder to predict what’s going to happen next in 2020 and our sense of perceived control—gone, right? What will the holidays even look like this year?? We all do better when we think we...

Holiday Tip #2:  Simplify

Holiday Tip #2: Simplify

If you are a foster parent, you are raising a child who has experienced significant relational harm. Because of this, their bodies and brains are wired differently, and the overwhelming hustle and bustle of the holiday season can just be too much. While the child in...

Holiday Tip #1: Sad Looks Mad

Holiday Tip #1: Sad Looks Mad

So, this year the holidays may end up looking a bit different than we're used to, right? Maybe you’re excited about the opportunity to try out some new traditions or have a more simplified season. Or maybe you’re grieving the changes and wish you could go back to the...

Say It With Scripts

Say It With Scripts

Have you ever thought, "Maybe I use too many words when I talk to my children?" If so, you are in good company! Adults use talk as their primary way of communicating, but it's not so with our children. They have an entirely different language of communication. Check...

Seeing the Need Behind the Behavior

Seeing the Need Behind the Behavior

by Ashley Bennett, Director of Trauma-Informed Care The routine was off this morning. I knew that it was. M and I usually have some time alone together in the mornings but this morning a sibling was already up. While I usually sit down with him at breakfast time, this...

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